What I've learnt from chasing my dream (3 lessons in following your heart)
I never intended to be a coach or a business owner. As I was growing up I was pretty sure I was going to be a teacher. When I graduated from university I “fell into” a very corporate career - mostly because I felt it was what I should do.
For almost 7 years I worked my 9-5, pushing and striving for the next promotion, all the while dreaming of a different life. It wasn’t that I hated my job per se, I just craved meaning - something deeper and more fulfilling.
Now almost 11 years after leaving uni (How did that happen??) and here I am. I’ve just wrapped up a call with one of my amazing clients and my heart is bursting with gratitude because I get to do this every day. Coaching lights me up, it brings me alive.
I’m here because I made a choice - I chose to chase my dream, to follow my intuition and go after the things that feel good to me. It hasn’t always been easy, there have been days where I have wanted to run and hide (I still have those days), but I have stood firm because I know that whatever is meant to be, will be.
Today I want to share 3 of the biggest lessons following my dream has taught me. It’s my hope that it will serve as encouragement for those of you that are (or dream of) creating your own path.
Lessons in following your heart
1. You have to commit to something, even if you’re not sure what you are committing to
There have been so many days when I’ve felt confused and frustrated. I haven’t known what path to take or I’ve realised I’m on the wrong path altogether. It would be easy to throw the towel in, to say it’s just too hard and give up on my dream. Believe me, I’ve come close. And I still have those days.
When I find myself in that space, I stop and take a step back. I recommit to following my heart, even if I have no idea where it is leading me. Because the truth is, everything changes and living up to our highest potential takes faith - it requires us to take risks and leap into the unknown. I’ve done it enough to learn that when I leap I am always caught, even if I take longer to reach the net than I would like to.
2. No one can do it for you
You are the conscious creator of your life. What we put out into the universe is exactly what we attract back to us, and it’s important to take personal responsibility for what we do with our life. Sure, you can find support in working with a life coach or seeking out a mentor, but ultimately you are the one that still has to do the work.
I spent a lot of time waiting for someone to hand me permission to go after my dreams. Eventually I realised that was never going to happen because the only permission I actually needed was from myself.
3. You already have everything you need
I promise, you really do. You have a wealth of inner wisdom, knowledge and guidance just waiting to be accessed. In the first couple of years of my business, I felt totally out of my depth - I didn’t know what direction to take so I jumped from one thing to another. I spent hours looking at what everyone else was doing, trying to figure out how to do the same thing.
I was tired, overwhelmed and struggling. I needed a new approach.
I stopped worrying about what everyone else was doing or what I thought was expected of me and I turned inwards. I began to create space through meditation and my daily practices and this has allowed me to deepen my connection to my intuition. Now the choices I make (for the most part) feel good to me, they feel aligned. Whenever I’m unclear which path to take I turn inwards and I’m always guided to my next step.
I know that some of you reading this have a dream that is unrealised, as yet. For whatever reason, you've not yet taken the leap forward with chasing what you desire. Perhaps you are held back by fear, or maybe you don't think you are deserving.
Let me ask you this - do you want to live life to your highest potential? It takes courage and bravery but it is your right and purpose to wake up each day knowing you get to do whatever it is that makes your heart sing.
Start small - commit to exploring your dream for just one day. What one tiny thing can you do today that will bring you closer to the life you truly desire?
I'm opening up the doors to my life coaching program at the end of this week and I'd love to support you in exploring your dream. I only have space to work with 8 women at this time and I expect interest to be high, so if you are feeling called to find out more you can book a free 30 minute discovery session here.