3 mindset shifts to try out today
If you've been around for a little while, you will know that I firmly believe that the only thing that can stand in the way of your vision is YOU.
How do I know this?
Because for years I sucummbed to self-sabotage and fear and things only started to shift when I changed my mindset. I used to think there was something wrong with me, that I was somehow broken. All of the things I desired... well, they were for others to achieve, not little ol' me.
I told myself I would go after what I wanted when I had more time/money/the perfect waistline. I plodded along in a life that lacked meaning because I didn't believe that I was allowed to follow my heart.
Over time, I learned mindset shifts that completely altered my view of what was possible for me. I learned that when we tune out the noise and turn inwards, we gain an authentic confidence in who we are.
I learnt that my true purpose is to be at the steering wheel of my own life.
Today I want to share the 3 mindset shifts that allowed me to step out of my own way...
Mindset shift: I have permission to hold up my vision
I would watch others going after their vision and creating things I also dreamed of, but I would think to myself " It's ok for them...they have more money/are thinner/live somewhere better".
The truth is that I was afraid to move away from the life that was expected of me - although I was deeply unhappy, it seemed safer to stay in that place of comfort than strike out on my own path. I kept myself playing small by continuing to tell myself that I had to follow the traditional path through life.
The shift: You have permission to hold the vision of what you want because when women see that in another woman, it gives them permission to want that for themselves.
I genuinely believe each of us has a responsibility to follow what is placed on our heart so that we might light the way for others - you are here to light that path.
Mindset shift: Doing it imperfectly is better than not doing it at all
I'll let you into a secret: I know longer have time for perfection.
Perfection and I used to be BFF's, but no matter how hard I tried, I couldn't live up to Perfection's expectations. So after much disappointment and regret, I decided we needed to break up.
You see Perfection makes things look great from the outside, but it's not real. Perfection is shallow - it has no depth. It is deeply rooted in the (false) belief that we are not good enough, just as we are.
I've lost count of the number of projects I've abandoned because they weren't 'perfect'. Words left unpublished, offerings shelved. And this is the real reason I broke up Perfection - it's selfish. It convinces us we need to play small when we could be shining our light in the world and helping those who need our message.
And you know what? Since Perfection and I broke up, I've experienced a sense of freedom unlike anything before. Deeper connection, more capacity for love, a bigger impact.
Because we are all craving R E A L.
Mindset shift: This isn't happening to me, it's happening for me
If you are telling yourself that you don't have any control over your own life or that your circumstances mean you can't follow your heart, I'm going to call you out on that bullshit right now.
I haven't got time for it. And you shouldn't either.
I understand the appeal of slipping into a victim mentaliity - it's a great excuse to avoid taking risks or stepping out of your comfort zone.
But, you are the CEO of your own life. Take responsibility. Show up.
When you start to see everything as for you, instead of working against you, you can begin to take ownership. The universe supports you, if only you will let it.
This is your permission slip to go after your vision boldly and unapologetically.
You are enough.
It's time to come back home to yourself.