Navigating a new era : hearing our call

9 years ago I sat in a performance review with my (male) boss and listened as he told me that if I wanted to get anywhere in my career, I was going to have to "be more like a man". 

I was appalled. I spoke to the HR department only to be told that I must have misheard him. I had witnessed others be ridiculed and driven out for trying to promote a different culture. I didn't want that to happen to me. So I put my head down, I hid the parts of myself I didn't feel would gain approval. 

7 years ago I sat in a department meeting (different company) and watched as the CEO told my female colleague that she "should focus less on which shade of lipstick to wear, if she wanted to compete with her male counterparts. I watched her cheeks turn pink as other male colleagues snorted with laughter. 

6 years ago I suppressed my rage when I was told to 'turn on my womanly charm' in order to land a new contract. 

To some of you these things might sound trivial but the truth is, they are indicators of a deeper issue - an issue that, even now in 2016, still rages.

Sure, we need to celebrate how far we have come but let us not forget there is still work do.  It's time to rise up and finish what those who advocated before us, began.

Like the rest of the world, I was shocked to my core this morning by the result of the US election. It's my personal opinion that neither candidate was an attractive option. It genuinely came down to the lesser of two evils and my heart is heavy. 

But the most confusing thing? How a man who admits to sexually assaulting women and then shrugs it off as "locker room talk" is even able to stand as a candidate to become the so-called 'Leader of the Free World'. 20 years ago, maybe... but now? 

How do I explain that to my 13 year-old stepdaughter? 

One thing I do know for sure is that we are being called to rise. 

@@These are the final threads of the patriarchy, and they are unravelling@@. What we have known before is being revealed as flawed and ineffective in this new age. We are in the process of rebuilding our entire world. 

Destruction and creation are one. 

This is our wake up call. 

It's our call to stand up for what is true and right. To declare that #itsnotok

It's our call to use our voice and declare that we matter. 

It's our call to rise up in feminine leadership and nurture kindness, tolerance, and respect. 

It's our call to advocate for those who are not able to advocate for themselves. 

It's our call to practice courage. 

It's our call to consciously create our own life. 

It's our call to unite. 

This is the call to shine even brighter and love even harder. 

They tried to bury us. They didn’t realise we were seeds
— Mexican Proverb (via Rebecca Campbell)

TOGETHER we can embody being the change we need in this world. 

Love + gratitude,

Gemma xo